Let us wonder upon these few questions as we step more into our love lives…
Who’s going to love you and hold you when you’re at your worst?
Who’s going love you and give their best even when you hurt them so bad and you just don’t give as much as they do?
Who is always going to be there even without the regular talks and communications, but still manages to always know what to do when you break down and need support?
Who’s that one person who stays even when the times are hard?
Who’s that one person who stays after knowing the darkest, most embarrassing secret from your past that not even a single soul ever know before?
Who’s that one amazing person who stands so strong on their own and supports you to go after your dreams?
Who’s that one person who sees you breaking apart and pushes you so hard to get you back on your feet?
Who’s going to take care of you when you’re sick, and looking so horrible, and they still find you the most attractive human being on this earth?
Who’s that one amazing person who puts up such a fight and gives an enormous effort even when you don’t acknowledge them?
Who’s willing to stay awake at 3 am in the morning just so they can listen to all the things you need to talk about when you had a rough day?
And while you read this, who popped into your mind? You remember that person at this very moment, don’t you? You remember the time when you told them your secrets and how relieved you were when you did not see any judgment from their eyes. You remember your first date. The first time you told them that you love them, and the amazing feeling when they told you that they loved you, too. You remember the time they cried over you, and how you witnessed how sincere their love and affections for you were.
You remember giving them a list of reasons for why it would not work, and how they should find someone else. You remember giving them the reasons why they should just walk away. But they did not go anywhere, they told you that they don’t want anyone else and they refused to let go. But you let them go anyway. No one can do quite like they did, is that it? And you’re pretty sure that no one will ever love you the way they did, aren’t you?
We spend our lifetimes to find that one person, yet, as humans, we never really learn. We take those people who love us so unconditionally for granted after we found them. We wonder if we can find someone better, we get distracted by other people, and we get tired.
But we forget that there are a lot of people who are better than us, but they stayed. And often, after it’s already too late, we realize that we’ve lost a diamond while we’re so busy observing the other grey rocks.
But, we never really learned, did we?
It is not about finding the prettiest, the strongest, the richest, nor the smartest — not even the most romantic ones who will throw a big gesture like what we’ve seen in all those Hollywood movies that thrive on grand gestures.
True love takes time to develop, several difficult times to see if the person we love stands by us, and a lot of understanding and respect. Attraction and infatuation are not love, no matter how much fairy dust is sprinkled on it to make you believe otherwise.
But deep down, we already knew what we truly need.